Protecting Our Children
So What Can We Do to Protect Our Children from Pornography? Part
By JoAnn Hibbert Hamilton
I don't think very
many people really know if there has ever been pornography on their computer.
The question is, "Has a babysitter pulled it up and perhaps shown it
to your children? Has a friend of your children's gotten into it? To find
out go to www.strengthenthefamily.net. At the bottom of the homepage click
on Content Watch. On that homepage or under “Products” you will
see Content Audit. It is free. Download it and according to those who put
out this information, you will know right then everything that has ever been
on your computer. You will know if you have a problem to deal with.
- If you find pornography of some sort, talk calmly to the child. If you
say to your child, "I have told you a hundred times that that stuff
is filth," you will never know where your child is on this issue because
he or she will never tell you. It is important that you stay calm and maintain
a good relationship with your child so this becomes something you both can
talk about. The only thing worse than finding it is to not find it because
then your child will move into addiction.
- Ask your children what they have seen. Most children will just tell you.
Parents often don't know because they don't ask. If a child won't talk about
it, there is usually a problem. If children do so easily, you will know
right where they are.
- A key is to teach your children that:
- Pornography changes how people think.
- Teach them that it makes deviant things seem normal. Explain to your
children that's why their friends tell them that certain things are appropriate
when they aren't. Their thinking has changed because of their exposure.
- Teach them that the person involved is often looking for a higher high
which is eventually nonexistent.
- Teach them that it ruins relationships.
- At some point, they will likely lose their capacity to love.
- They often will not experience the real intimacy that God meant for
them to have.
- Teach them that it usually creates distance and anger in a marriage.
- Teach them that it is quickly addictive, i.e. one exposure on the Internet,
two weeks and common in three months.
- Teach them that the criterion is to judge against innocence. If a baby
who is born innocent never sees pornography until age 18 it creates shock.
That isn't happening. How desensitized are our children?
- Talk to your family about setting tighter guidelines of acceptance for
movies, videos, television, or video games, then set standards where nothing
inappropriate, vulgar, violent, pornographic or suggestive in any way
is to be seen. There's nothing wrong with changing family rules when you
learn about a problem.
- Teach them to "crash and tell." "Crash" means that
if they ever accidentally pull up pornography on the computer, to immediately
turn off the computer. Then they will see just an instance of pornography
instead of 10 minutes of it.
- Teach them that they will feel guilt but it is important for them to
tell so you can help them with this.
- Teach them to talk to you about it. You want to help them and give them
To be continued
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